They say, " old cultured people resists change happening around" believe me it's true.
This honest feelings is limited to only my views and it's not a sampled survey.
" The world is moving at a rapid pace, but lower sections of society in India, as a matter of fact few upper middle class people resist to change the culture they are brought up with, resistance here is to such an extent, the people who wants to change, are forced to live in a similar way that the environment demands it to be".
I live in an apartment that has 12 families and I am the only bachelor, paying a rent of 6k that is total worthless, but because of IT, the rents of the homes have shot up to such an extent, where I believe 6k is the least for 1hk. I have stayed at this place for almost about 2 years and rent was increased 25% initially for 4k and den again 20% on 5k, reason stating the emergence of new mall in the corner and IT companies, which pays a lot better than other professions, which gives a deeper disposable income, large mass stupid hirings, which increases the demand and with supply responding to the demand very slowly, the rates of the flats shoot up. The funny part is here, I asked why 20% and why not 15%, he had no clue, end of the day he needs 20% because some fool from the IT company is ready to pay that. Which resulted in me having lower disposable income, lower consumption and lower contribution to gsp and in turn gdp.
Here is the math:
Salary -24k
Rent- 4k
Had to send to home- 5k
Two sides bus fare- 60/- ( per day and considering 4 weeks and 2 days and 8 holidays,it'll turn out to be 1320/-)
Updated fare- 1.3k
From the bus stop to office it's 6-7kms and auto charge 30/- to my office on 3 people shared basis which has stoppages and auto guy earns somewhere in between 45-60 based on number of people at each stage ( first stage - 15/- that is for three, if two gets down at second stage it is 20/-, hence it is 55/- and if two gets down at first stage and one moves out to next stage it is 30, hence it is 60/- and if all move on to second stage it is 20/- which is again 60/- and the distance between first and second stage is 3kms and distance between bus stop to first stage is 4kms)
Hence auto fare - 1.9k ( 30/- on one side and 60 on the another side as nobody was taking auto in the evening at the time I used to complete work, I.e at 9pm, considering 22 days of work)
Food I used to skip bf to save, lunch was costing 60/- for couple of chapati, small bowl of rice and two small quantity bhajis
Lunch expenditure - 1.3k
Night dinner on an average would cost me 60-100
Dinner expenditure - 1.8k to 3k
Phone recharge etc would cost me 95/- for monthly 2g, yes 2g I have never used 3g until now and 50+28 weekly roaming and talkative recharge
Phone expenditure- 400/-
Total comes out to be 16.4k /-
This is on narrow side.
I would save 8k and one time dinner outside, late night office result to ola missceloenous etc would comes out to be 3-4k
Hence I save 12% on 24k salary. My gross income is 290k annually and I save 36k which gives me very less room to perceive my adaptation skills for ex sap, other certifications whose prices are sky high.
Now this is with rent 4,000/- and now I pay 2k more and salary has increased by 4k, so has the prices of food, etc which leaves even lesser room with level of prices increasing with respect to home, food etc increasing at a faster rate compared to increase in salary.
This detailed explanation was to show that 20-30% of total expenditure is home rent and it keeps on increasing with no sensible reason. This is for homes not painted on regular basis, criticisms etc.
I tried to rationalize the increase, I said mall has not increased the demand for homes in the locality I stay because still the vacancies are pretty much visible and it has only increased the traffic to malls, what has increased is land prices and owner did not own the land his response was, " we have increased way before you came and will increase way after you go" which was the most foolish answer I have ever heard.
This detailed explanation was to show the first resistance to change from the way the house rent increases and this goes on to his pocket as the transaction is with cash and no accountability.
Hence the first question I put up is how will introduction of 2k notes and newer 500/- notes is going to abolish this, as there are no incentive policy to stop this neither there is penalty to stop this.
Now culture:-
People in my apartment are from gutka, tambaku eating legacy. Here is the kicker-
1- I wear shorts and move, they criticse
2- I put on music, they criticse
3- I stay at home with closed doors from morning to evening, they criticise
4- I speak on phone, criticise etc
5- Funny part was I spoke in English it was criticized, as I Marathi is common language and from karnataka where kannada is primary language. This made them conclude which was dangerous that, " south Indian people show off"
6- they used to say, I see ladies in the apartment as if I want to rape them. Now with average age of ladies being 35-40, and I work from 9-9 and night sit in library to study and come back at 11, I Do not have time, infact am 24, why will I see a lady aged 40, makes absolutely no sense. I asked what is this baseless allegations, they said I wear shorts and walk around.
Lemme math out:-
Average age of people in my apartment is 30-40 years.
Income is only from renting out, small grocery shop and selling of home made bf in the morning. All unaccounted wealth. I was infact surprised to see that a husband of age early 30's, children of age 10 and 4, has no work other than income from above mentioned sources takes an iPhone 7 on personal loan with guarantor
It doesn't take a rocket science to tell the kind of education his children's will get. And the legacy will follow.
The problem here is I was kind of alien, I tried to educate the children's in this apartment which came against me stating am giving them wrong education and is not in need of these education.
I tried to tell them the importance of change etc, I wad bullied upon and threatened every time to be thrown out of room.
I used to talk on phone, they used to say you shouldn't talk on phone for long with girls, I was like shocked without even knowing who am I talking to.
I walked on terrace for evening relaxation,later on they closed the terrace because I used to walk.
This blog will be a lot bigger if I mention all the miseries I went through, the pain I faced and I firmly believe these are the primary reasons why India is still behind, why people leave in poverty, why education level is so low, and why on HDI we still drown at the bottom, why people are still okay with u employement and prefer chilling out.
And I stayed here amidst these for 2 years is because I thought I could change, as I had strong convincing skills and am not bragging, but strong culture following and resistance to change from normal, peaceful, unchallenged perceptive way of leading life and which is going to be transferred to children's and grand children's, made me fail and made me feel I am not as good convincer as I thought I was.
I believe a survey on these would lead to same outcome and same underlying reasons as to why people are reluctant to change. And negative effect on these are, criticism, unaccounted wealth piling up leading to cushioned life, growth pattern subdued among the family and children see what they Learn and they learn that no work is the best work.
But hey, I quit the room today, leaving a note of. " change with the changing tides, or else you'd be washed away", and yes I wrote it in Marathi, Google helped me through.